I've had many people over the years tell me that I'm rude.
It's not really a surprise anymore when I hear someone say this about me or to my face.
I've tried to fix my little 'quirk' but it's been a bit of a challenge.
To me, rude is the wrong word, but doesn't everyone say that when they're trying to make
themselves sound less bad? Blunt is a better word to describe my social behavior,
at least in most situations. I have a hard time grasping the concept of 'beating around the bush'.
It is something that confuses a lot of people and can lead people into a situation that they
were not anticipating and most likely did not want to end up.
I over heard my mom once tell someone 'Don't get on Johnny's bad side, you won't like it
over there.' I just tell people how it is. A lot of people don't like that and I completely
understand and I do try to respect that. I'm just the type of person that would rather
know the facts straight out instead of having to take the risk of interpreting them wrong.
I know the saying 'leave a little mystery!' but I'd just rather not.
You get what you see, no frills, no extras, no hidden meanings, just me.
If you don't like it, you don't like it, if you do, you do.
That's just how life goes.
Of course I'm not some straight up jerk to people, especially when they need someone
to comfort them or a shoulder to cry on, but I do try to let them know the
truth instead of sugar coating everything. I don't really get why people would
want their life sugar coated into some imaginary perfect world.
Even with my friend RJR who was diagnosed with cancer a while back,
it was sometimes hard to give her the sympathy she deserved. (Hey RJR, pretty sure
this is the first time you're hearing this, no worries) I lost my dad 3 years ago to cancer
so every time that she had something to say my first response, in my head, would be
'just be thankful you're here, you're alive.' After a while I realized that yes, she is here and
alive and well - wait, no, she is not well. What she went through is unimaginable and
torture to her poor body. I had to try to put myself in her shoes and think about what I
would want someone to say in that situation. It took me a couple weeks to get the hang
of it but I think I did an alright job, at least I hope I did RJR.
So yes, I am blunt, I call it how I see it. But there is a time and a place for a little
softness on the edges of my 'harsh' social skills.
I'm still grasping the whole idea of it, but I do think I've gotten better, a little.
Any misconceptions about yourselves?
It's hard to talk 'bad' about yourself, but I admit, it felt really good.
Until another day,
To all my Faithful Readers:
Here is a small peek inside my brain. Enjoy.